Not the Emily I link to on the right. Emily, the TCU chick. Good friend of a few of my fellow Austinites (including Koci, who I link to). Normally I have no problem talking about new friends of mine, but it's a bit stranger when I talk about girls. And not just like any old girl I meet, but the kind of girls where something may or may not happen. Well, Emily and I spent the whole summer talking to one another. You can probably see where I'm going with this.
After Em and I were in the same town for all of a week, we had a really great time. We got to have breakfast together one morning, she forced me to watch the Blue Collar Comedy Tour another night, and went out to downtown FW on the Friday night before I moved back here. She's asked me more than once - why wasn't she mentioned on here?
The short answer, as cruel as it sounds, is because I want a blog that's not going to suck. I have a few specific reasons, too:
-If I talked about every crush on every girl, every interaction with the female species, well, this would look like every Xanga site run by an emo kid, and nobody would read it [To the disappointment of my three and a half readers.].
-It totally jinxes any chance I have with a girl I like. I know this from experience, please trust me on it.
-Talking on and on about girls, it's very hard for me not to telegraph exactly what I want to do. This opens up lots of problems with (a) being predictable and (b) competition.
-It could screw up things with amigos. Suppose I have a crush on a girl, I write about it, and along comes one of my readers who also has a crush on the same girl. Problems ensue that could have been avoided. Worse, the whole competition thing could rear its ugly head and the reader could beat me to asking said girl out. Crappy. If I had a steady, exclusive girlfriend, I really wouldn't have a problem with writing about things that happen. Example: "I had a really fun time on Saturday night going out with [insert girl's name here] when the craziest thing happened..." But as far as mentioning small things with girlish friends, there's just too much that can go wrong. Writing so much about relationships and non-relationships and blah blah blah just gets so stale so fast. The times in the past I've mentioned dates I went on (Steph and Abby), it was because something interesting happened or I learned a lesson or at least felt really inspired to write. So Emily, please don't take it personally that I haven't mentioned ya. It's not that you're not cute/charming/loads of fun. I'm just erring on the side of caution.
-It totally jinxes any chance I have with a girl I like. I know this from experience, please trust me on it.
-Talking on and on about girls, it's very hard for me not to telegraph exactly what I want to do. This opens up lots of problems with (a) being predictable and (b) competition.
-It could screw up things with amigos. Suppose I have a crush on a girl, I write about it, and along comes one of my readers who also has a crush on the same girl. Problems ensue that could have been avoided. Worse, the whole competition thing could rear its ugly head and the reader could beat me to asking said girl out. Crappy. If I had a steady, exclusive girlfriend, I really wouldn't have a problem with writing about things that happen. Example: "I had a really fun time on Saturday night going out with [insert girl's name here] when the craziest thing happened..." But as far as mentioning small things with girlish friends, there's just too much that can go wrong. Writing so much about relationships and non-relationships and blah blah blah just gets so stale so fast. The times in the past I've mentioned dates I went on (Steph and Abby), it was because something interesting happened or I learned a lesson or at least felt really inspired to write. So Emily, please don't take it personally that I haven't mentioned ya. It's not that you're not cute/charming/loads of fun. I'm just erring on the side of caution.